How to care less

To be calm in a chaotic situation is very difficult, but in this post, we’ll get to see some strategies to stay calm and care less about everything and what people say. An easy example could be you just lost your phone and it is on ‘do not disturb’ so no matter how much your friend tried calling your phone, it would not work. Instead of getting angry, throwing fists or getting anxious about it, it would not help anything. You just have to keep finding your phone calmly. And don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should ball up your emotions, but it is about picking your battles. Ask yourself, if getting angry, will that make you find your phone quicker? No it wouldn’t so keep looking for it.

We tend to care so much about what people say or how they act towards us. If you see people laughing in your direction, you will think that they are laughing at you. If someone is playing on their phones while you are talking, you think that you need to be respected. Have you noticed the trends? It is all about you. What you think about yourself based on other people’s actions. This is our ego, it will always think that others must take us into consideration. That you need to be acknowledged. First thing to think about is that “It’s NOT about me”. Everything we do, it is always “me, myself and I”, like the song lol. You asked a person a lot of questions and they started to get annoyed - Omg, it’s my fault, I asked too many questions. Why don’t we try to shift the topic of ME to WE? Try looking at their intentions. That person might be annoyed at themselves because they are not explaining properly to you or maybe they are in a hurry to go somewhere, we don’t even know, so why should we think that it is always about us. We should think that everyone wants to be right and that has NOTHING to do with you.

What if, “it IS about me”. For example, if someone said something about you like “you are a strawberry”, you would probably not think much about it since you are not a fruit. However what if they say, “you are a liar” and it somehow has an effect on you despite you being a very honest person. Now, you need to look at yourself. Sometimes things that people said that triggered you might be something from your childhood. You might not be such an honest child when you were younger but not now. Look at yourself and reflect on it. Give yourself some empathy and try to speak up. By speaking up, you are not blaming the person, you are just finding the cause of why they called you a liar. If it is your fault, apologize and try to be better next time, but if it isn’t your fault, go back to rule number 2, “It’s NOT about me”. People will always think that they are right and this has nothing to do with you at all.